Boost your confidence.
Having a good network of support from friends and/or family is a huge factor in building and maintaining mental fitness. A strong social support network means that you have more emotional, physical and logistical support available to you: both in your day-to-day and when life throws you a challenge.
OVERVIEW
Relationships with others provide an opportunity to talk things through and even for mentoring which often reduces the stress and anxiety of problem solving. Social support can also improve the motivation and perseverance we need to reach our goals. It even affects our immune system which keeps us fit and healthy and capable of performing at our peak.
So, if we find that we’re not connecting with others or not making time to support people we know, it’s critical to make changes. You don’t need a huge network; just a handful of people, in and out of the workplace, is enough as long as you engage with them regularly.
THE WHY
Being in a positive social environment helps to boost the hormone oxytocin that makes us feel more connected to others and helps us to feel great. Remember, if you feel good, you will often have positive thoughts and these in turn help us to reach our optimal performance. What is more, oxytocin has been linked to stress regulation by reducing blood pressure and cortisol levels.
Like many of the Peak State tools, Strength in Numbers works well in conjunction with other techniques. Why not check out Increasing Positive Attitudes. For some people, lack of connectivity might result from lower levels of confidence in social situations; if this is the case, look at Standing Tall and Positive Self Talk.
LISTEN TO THE TOOL
Exercise
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CHECK: Check in with yourself. How are you feeling right now?
Do you feel connected to other people?
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CHALLENGE: Does it feel like you spend enough of your time with others or do you feel like you don't have the time to spare? Do you feel like you have a network that relies on you and upon whom you can rely? Are you realistically giving yourself the opportunities to build a supportive social network?
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CHANGE: If you feel like you could benefit from being more connected, here are some tips:
Don’t wait for others to pick up the phone or to organise things. Be proactive and reach out to them.
Sometimes we need to use the amazing levels of technology we now have, from messaging to video calling. Don’t rely on technology, though, as face to face will always be the most beneficial way to engage with someone.
Don’t be shy to seek support from your peers. Most people are pleased, and even honoured to be asked for help.
Find like-minded people. Try expanding your network of social support by going to places or joining clubs where you know there’ll be people with similar interests.